I have spent most of my life being told I was bad for being upset about things other people decided were irrational. This is one of those times. I invited my grandmother to hotpot as a belated Mother’s Day gift. In my mind, I had already mapped out the meal: my mom, dad, sister, grandmother, and I. My grandmother was the person I had added to our usual family meal, so I had a rough financial expectation of what the afternoon would cost, somewhere around ₱2,500 to ₱3,000. Then